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Becoming a Christan as a youngster, Kim’s life changed significantly. However, her religion was tested when a few years later, she fell in love with a non-Christian. Joseph was lovely, daring, lovely, and bright. But he didn’t want to follow God.
Kim was forced to make the most difficult choice in her life as the relationship progressed. Should the Holy Spirit disregard Mary’s call to end her relationship with Joseph? She obeys and is in danger of breaking her heart?
Kim made the right decision. With Joseph, she broke and walked in tears to college. She would never have felt so isolated. But she knew that she was doing the right thing beyond a shadow of a doubt.
A Christian date a non-Christian is a pretty typical case. They fall in love. They fall in love. The Christian must choose to go through the pain of dislocation or to “be unfaithful” to an unbeliever. Alas, many choose the latter—and regret it later.
The Bible admonishes against being unfairly yoked: “Don’t be yoked with unbelievers. For what have justice and evil in common? Or what kind of communion with darkness can light have?” (NIV). Since the phrase “uniformly yoked” can be hard to see, I like to read that paraphrase from The Message. These verses read, “Those who reject God don’t become partners. How can you do the right and wrong partnership? This is not partnership; this is war. It is a partnership. Are you light-best dark friends? Will Christ walk with the devil?”
For our protection and joy, God gives us this command. He knows that if our spouse has different convictions, values, and priorities, we cannot have the best possible marriage. And even if it is difficult to obey God, especially in this way, it always deserves to be.
Some Christians may say, “But the person is going to change.” Perhaps so. Perhaps. God has the power to change someone, and for the people we care about, we should never abandon our prayers. However, the verse in 2 Corinthians does not say, “Do not be uniquely yoked… if you don’t think that the person would change.” It says, ‘Do not join unbelievers in yoking.’
Moreover, he says, “Woman, how do you know that you’re going to save your husband? Or, husband, how do you know if you’re going to save your wife?” It’s the responsibility of Christ’s followers to abide by the command of God and trust in Him for the best plan for our life, even though this will lead our lives in a new direction.
In the Old Testament, this problem was even a concern. He gave them important commandments about dealing with the heathen people when God took the Israelites into the promised land.
Don’t marry them with one another. Do not give their daughters to their sons or take their daughters for your sons. You’re going to do this for them: Break your altars down and break down your sacred stones, cut your Asherah bars down and burn down in a fire your idols because you are the greatest and holy people to your God.
If you’re Christ’s follower, you’re God’s chosen son. He wants you to make no difference from His best.