Losing a job is a difficult time

Losing a job is a difficult time

It had been three weeks since I had been laid off, and I was still trying to find out how to deal with the loss of my job. According to conventional opinion, I should leave the house. As a result, I joined a new men’s group at church. 

But I wanted to go as soon as the first person inquired what I did for a job. What exactly did I do? What was I doing? Are you looking for work? Unemployed? I didn’t “do” anything anymore, officially. 

I heard myself say as if on autopilot, the answer I’d given a thousand times before: “I work in IT.” 

But it was a lie this time. 

My difficulty persisted while I looked for a table to connect. We revealed our identities and, you guessed it, what we did during our “get to know one other” time. 

I had no idea how crucial having an answer to that issue was. It was as if I could process no additional information until I first knew if I belonged in the blue-collar, white-collar, management, or owner bucket. How could I talk about my job loss?

You don’t have to handle it alone. 

It is exhausting to look for work after getting laid off. Each day proceeded in the same manner:

  1. Get up early.
  2. Determine potential jobs.
  3. Personalize your CV to match the position.
  4. Create a standout cover letter.
  5. Apply.

Obtain an interview? Nothing has changed. You still have to deal with job loss.

Rinse and repeat. 

Each setback eroded my confidence and sowed the seeds of self-doubt. Even a simple “How’s the job search going?” from my wife eventually seemed like stinging criticism. I understood she was trying to be helpful, but after a long day of failures, she screamed, “You’re letting us all down! You must do more!” 

As a male, I felt obligated to support my family. But how can I be a provider if I don’t have any money? If I’m still struggling with my job loss?

The more I read the Bible, the more I understood I didn’t have to bear the burden of job loss alone. He’d already assigned me an assistant. 

Job loss provides a chance for transformation. 

God made it evident to me after the layoff that He wanted me to pursue full-time ministry. However, such a change takes time. I needed to return to school since I had a lot to learn. 

We were fortunate to be able to stretch my severance payment to satisfy our expenses. Without my wife’s assistance, I would have been tempted to reject God’s calling and seek employment in my primary industry to make ends meet. But it was my wife’s encouragement that gave me the courage to keep going, even when things became tough. 

I’ll never forget one of my interviews. When I told the pastor about my calling, he responded, “No one is going to pay you to do that.” 

His forthright honesty astounded me. 

“It makes no difference; God has called me to do this. I’m going to do it whether you’re there or not.” 

I returned home and informed my family that I would not be receiving the job. 

“Honey, I’m at a loss for what to do,” I said to my wife. “It’s as though I’m pushing this family off a cliff.”